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Using Our Best Manners When Vacationing in a Foreign Country

Rebecca Black; woman; drinking wine 

Our manners are the most important accessory to pack when vacationing in a foreign country.  The people of each country view protocol, etiquette, and manners differently.  Just consider our presidents’ trips to Europe and all the different protocols each was required to learn and then exhibit.  This is something all of us should consider as we venture out beyond our borders. 

Dress and Behave for the Region

For example, if vacationing in Italy, plan to dress and behave more formally than here in the US.  Italians firmly believe in a term called, “bella figura,” which literally means beautiful figure.  Culturally, Italians believe in behaving with a sense of decorum and formality and this term reflects this belief.  This is a natural extension from loyalty to family, friends, and the community, especially in the south.   One should always try to present oneself in the best manner; one’s actions should at least appear virtuous.

Homework Doesn’t End Once You Leave School

Do your homework before crossing our borders.  Read tour books and websites from those countries of interest.  Ask others who have traveled to these destinations.  What were their experiences?  Gather as much information as you can before you leave to minimize your culture shock and possible insults.  



Mind Your Gestures and Phases

Something as simple as a wag of a finger could be insulting.  In Egypt, it is extremely insulting to wag your finger at someone, while the OK gesture we use means something entirely different in several other countries.  In addition, while in Great Britain do not even try to use the ‘V-sign with the palm pointed inwards, as it is considered vulgar and offensive.

Learn a few polite words and phrases to use and do not just assume others will know English.  Even if others speak English, avoid slang and euphemisms.  Phases like, “It’s better to have two birds in the hand…” will most likely confuse someone who does not speak English well.  Most likely that person will be looking around for the birds.  Moreover, slow down.  Speak slower because of our regional accents; it may be difficult for others to understand us. 

Shed The Ugly American Facade

Try to fit in; avoid appearing as “ugly American”.   Americans tend to appear as if we think we own the place as if we are an arrogant society.  Therefore, the more we try to understand the culture and try to emulate it before we arrive, hopefully, the less we will offend. 

To that end, it is important to note that Americans tend to develop relationships quickly, while many others need more time.  Therefore, avoid asking personal questions like what a person does for a living.   Avoid physical contact, wait for permission to address others by their first name, and stand when being introduced to others. 

Americans are also known for being too loud, so remember to use your “indoor voice”.  Also, as stated above for traveling to Italy, dress more formally than you would normally.  We tend to be known for our bulky sneakers and blue jeans.  Walking down the streets of Paris dressed as such is one of the fastest ways to mark yourself as the clueless American. 

For Your Consideration

Please consider our International Business Travel Etiquette: Seal The Deal by Understanding Proper Protocol for your next foreign travel needs.  These also include many helpful tips for those who are vacationing as well. 

Also, please visit: Gratuities Expected Around the World

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